Birdie Transformation Program
Week 18
Forgiving, Gratitude and Meditation
Deep winter and it is the time of rest, reflection and getting ready for new beginnings.
For this week, we consider 3 areas
Forgiveness
What is it, and what is it not?
Necessity to forgive for the sake of free energy flow for you.
Necessity to forgive for the sake of living open-heartedly.
Forgiving means no longer being bound by emotional entanglement.
You felt the anger, betrayal, violation, shame, blame and so on, ok, and you learned the lesson, you are now taking responsibility and are able to move on.
It does not mean to agree something was kind, or respectful, or peaceful, when clearly it was not.
It does not mean you will allow something similar to happen again if there is a way you can prevent it.
It does not mean you forgiving anyone will change what they do.
It does not mean disasters, illness and accidents in the world will not happen ever again.
Energetically, it does not make sense to not forgive – because it keeps you stuck, tied up.
Maybe you believe in soul contracts prior to birth, where certain souls agree to play a particular part in your life for your learning, in which case, strictly speaking, there isn’t even anything TO forgive. You could say: well played, well played. I felt the consequences of it, lesson learned.
Or, maybe your soul got called to come to earth to experience. And you did, you felt it, and now, lesson learned, it is time to move one. It does not even matter if it was something another person did or something that just happened as part of life. It is not productive for the rest of your life to keep blaming another human being or God. It happened, you learned.
If you didn’t learn, or change, lesson will be repeated, pain continues, new life cannot enter.
Task: This week, in your mind and space, be with an event or person you still hold a grudge with, still blame, still feel anger that they did what they did. Or be with a life situation that was so hard to be with and that you blamed the higher forces, or God.
Find a way to forgive them….or yourself, as it may be.
What is the lesson you learned?
Share with us any part of that process.
Gratitude
Task: In your mind, imagine all the people or animals you have ever met, and thank them for whatever role they played in your life. If nothing else, you had the chance to learn a powerful lesson. If you can, look at their life and their being with the compassionate understanding of an outside observer. If you can remember, are you able to thank them for at least one particular thing they did or said. Then do it.
If in this review you come across people you might have hurt, ask for forgiveness. Let them know you are sorry.
Create a space and set aside some time this week to do this task at least once. (or more if you wish)
Meditation
What is mediation for?
It is for awakening. It is not there to make you feel better, have better sex, heal trauma, calm down, loose weight, be happier or as a substitute for therapy. It might have some of those effects as a side effect, or not. Meditation is for awakening.
There are various forms of meditation, more on that at another time.
This week, we will start with what one could say is a preliminary exercise.
It is one of those practices to be done daily as an ongoing practice for a few weeks or months. Or maybe just 5 days a week, or every weekend …whatever your agreement is with yourself. Try to do it for 5 minutes, 10, or 20 minutes – or just 2 minutes.
Pause any time during the day when it is appropriate, or create a special time to sit, stand, walk, run or lay down – and observe your breath. Just observe it, not change it.
In other words: Observe the breathing that is happening. And it is going to be different after running compared to being rested. Do you even know how you are breathing when upset, or afraid?
Where in your body is the breath going, which part of your body moves when breathing?
Breath is life. Without it, we die, these bodies die.
Our bodies are expression of our souls, and without the body, certain types of work and experience are not possible.
Breath is important. Play around with it. Observe it, be with it consciously, lovingly. You will probably have some thoughts or feelings that are not related to your observation of breathing if you do this for more than a few seconds, that is okay, when you notice, just go back to attention to breathing.
During those minutes, keep your attention on simply breathing – as it happens to be happening.
There is a lot more, but this is the start.
Task, short form: Pay attention to the breathing that is happening in you. Specify for yourself the times you can commit to do this.